For many, the holiday season is a great time of the year. This is often the time of family reunion, association and celebration, when families, friends, and employees gather together for goodwill and good food. Season is bright, happy and full of good relationships. However, for those who suffer from disorders, it is often the worst time of the year. For those who are worried about the private hell of anorexia, bulimia or cerebral disorders, holidays often increase their personal struggle, causing them great internal pain and suffering.
In the center of change, we've been asking many patients for years to share from their personal experiences of what the holidays were like in eating disorders. Women in this article are of different ages, but all suffer from a long illness. When you read the following holes, you feel the suffering of the suffering that falls on the festive day of this year.
"Unlike any other ordinary teenager, I always hate it when the holiday season is rolling like a bad child in such a happy environment. I was the only person who did not like food, people and celebrations, holidays for me was a holiday of fear and isolation, another celebrated the weight, but added to my body the smell of food. – The twelve-year-old woman
"The holiday season is always the most complicated time of my eating disorder. The celebrations in my family are striving to focus on food. The combination of anxiety in the center of family and focus tends to be a tremendous trigger which easily perceives my eating disorder. I have to rely on external support to overcome the accents of the holidays at best. A 19-year-old woman
"Over the last few years, I felt awful in the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. I felt like I was trapped and like food. Holidays: I was terrified of my body and I did not want anyone to see me from the fear of eating that they would judge me. "An 18-year-old woman
These letters are women suffering from anorexia, bulimia and sadness, reveal emotional intensity that they feel during the holiday season. Their fear of weight and becoming, in their mind, is rude and disgusting, the monster that they must deal with whenever they have tasted any of the foods that are so wonderful and common for the holidays
For the slaughtered holidays – Anorexia's Tale
Anorexia feels terrified because they have no idea what the usual food for them. Most of them feel that eating means getting immediate benefits. By the way, some of them say that only the appearance or smell of food is terrible because their fat or fat fears are not always present in their minds, and some simply think about food to be able to create a severe shock, pain and sin. Anorexia is a major offense by involving any type of food. Eating food is evidence that they are weak, beyond control and insufficient. Anorexian men and women are often scared to eat while eating or seeing them when eating. One customer felt that every eye was at his festive gatherings. Many people with anorexia share their emotions because of their fears about food.
"My life is a feeding disorder during the holidays, which is a living hell, constantly hiding and frightened, confuses the life and hates every moment surrounded by food. It was so pain and sin inside me that I did not know where I would go back, except for my eating disorder. "The twelve-year-old woman
" It's going to be hard for all food and festivals. When I'm inside and struggling with "normal" food, I need help, emotional understanding, and support for family and other people. " Be careful, but please. I'll Leave in a Family – An Eleventh Three-Year-Old Woman
The importance of these quotes for the treatment of anorexia has been found to be the result of tremendous pressure and conflict that consumes the normal food and social activity of the season, their inner sufferings and pain often hide from their environment , in their continuous words, "fat" or can hide their involvement and avoidance in their precedents.
The hidden monster of the Holidays: Bulima's Tales and Benten Eat
A woman with severe bulimia or sad food disorder at the other end of the food disorder spectrum finds that the holidays are a real nightmare because there is so much emphasis on food on the fact that they turn into it. Bing's food and subsequent cleansing become more clear as most of the food and sweets associated with festive celebrations are tempting. Celebrations can be a pleasant surprise, but also during a great temptation and self-rejection for their secret life. Some even use the cigarette's eating and / or theft as a form of self-evaluation through celebrations.
Many women who suffer from diarrhea or bulimia often live in hellfire, in particular and secretly, often feel great self-esteem. Many family and friends may appear positive and normal, even when the sufferer experiences a lot of discouragement and negativity about loss of self-esteem. Those who know their family's eating disorder have this terrible feeling that they are the main attraction of a supper, where every trip to the food or bath is considered a great loss and disappointment to their family.
"Christmas is the most difficult time with my bulimia, so much food, so much love and joy, but I could not feel love or joy, so I was replaced by food as a substitute. I'm going to be unwanted and happy.
"The secret and lying of the weekend make it very difficult for me. I have to decide if my food or rotation is restricted, then steal for cleansing. " – Twelve-year-old woman
In the course of time, the effects of food and bulimia have been detected. and dishonesty, which is required to protect and cover their eating disorder on holidays. They often feel hatred for their continued fraud to justify or explain their behavior to family and friends. In addition, they live in constant fear,
Family and friends. Possible Impulsive Promotions to Gift Gifts
Festive ideas show what is good for the family and other personal relationships. During these years, actions may involve family members and friends in intensive and often emotional ways. Unfortunately, they can be terrible when eating great. emotionally with other people. In such situations, they may feel vulnerable and dangerous, and then return to their food disorder to restore control and self-confidence.
Some family dynamics, such as the conflict, can encourage those with disorder disorders. Fighting with perfection, rejection of feelings, fear of disrespect and control, are often frustrated by women suffering from illness. Parents, family members, or friends give strong emotions and convictions that are unacceptable, inappropriate or frustrating for someone, but especially for someone with painful edema. Involvement in family celebrations has the potential to overcome old issues, fears, conflicts and concerns about family relationships. As a result, emotional distress can feed the feeding disorder and tighten the problem.
"Having unpleasant eating disorders in my mind is quite controversial. I know they just want to get to and help, but I feel that great help will be a great effort to move on weekends. twelve-year-old woman
"Holidays with food and family mess are pure hell when you eat it. Remember, it's just food and we have more power than food." The three-eighteen-year-old woman
The following is a suggestion that we have made some suggestions for the treatment of patients. "What are your three choices for family and friends who want to help the holiday season go a bit better that they suffer from eating disorder?" Women offering these suggestions are fourteen to forty-four and their suggestions offer valuable insights and perceptions that can be useful to you as a friend or family member. Breathing with eating disorders can help promote holidays less than you love. The recommendations are as follows:
– Do not worry about what your loved one eats. A little encouragement is a good thing.
– Pay a lot of attention to food, it can only burn the eating disorder. Ask her how she is doing and see if she needs any help.
Do not be anxious about how he feels, you just have to do everything to support him.
– Offer a lot of support and know what can cause anxiety and try and understand what it feels like. Understand, good and support.
– Spend a good time with your beloved.
– Be sure that the primary focus of the holiday is not on food but in the family and in a valuable time that you will join together.
– Allow other activities that do not contain food, such as games, singing carols, opening gifts, decorating and spending time just talking together.
– Allow him to prepare a meal that he will feel comfortable eating.
– Prior to the Feast of the Feast and before family gatherings, agree on how best you can help your loved one. Order the arrangements you have made.
– Do not lift and pay attention to praise when it eats.
– Do not talk about diets, weight loss or weight gain. It causes great anxiety and can increase the behavior of emotional disorders.
– Do not look.
– Learn about sickness and fluctuations that will help your beloved to develop skills, as well as strategies that conflict with unpredictable thoughts and admonitions.
– Do you know something about its struggle, fluctuations, and behaviors? Then, if you see them, you can approach him, especially after lunch and offer ways he can help in some cases and learn how to be helpful and supportive.
– If you see him struggling, ask him if he wants to speak but ask for it privately.
– Pay attention to how he feels inside, what issues he is worried about, what is fear, what he needs, than what he eats.
– Try to pay attention to unfavorable eating habits that are of extreme concern.
– Be patient and nourishing.
– Treat Love and Respect no matter what happens.
– Let him know that he loves her.
– Help him introduce him to the food, talk about common or important subjects.
– Do not let him be too isolated.
– Be emotional and physically hugged and emotionally friendly to her.
There are a few topics that are obvious to diabetic patients and friends. One of the most important things is that primary attention and interest should be maintained on a family member or friend-a person outside of his eating habits or eating disorders. Offer these suggestions well, they are really heartfelt requests.
Family members and friends can help during the holidays
Family members and friends should know ways to help a loved one suffering from feeding disorders during the day she goes. Apart from the above suggestions, the following clinical recommendations can be helpful
– If your loved one is a child or adolescent in treatment and / or if you are taking part in Maudsley / Family Medicine, continue with your regular outline treatment program through holidays.
– If your loved ones are infected with an anorexia, they are learning about the approach of Maudli / Family-Based Treatment. It is important to give this approach.
– If your beloved is a serious medical or self-governing body, immediately organize intensive care / psychiatric care.
– Get professional help with your loved ones who have the experience and experience of eating disorders.
– It's important for everyone to be honest and front-facing.
When entering a family or social event, especially if people are aware of eating disorder, it is helpful for everyone to speak honestly about what will help and what will not help during the event. With this knowledge of the armed forces, family and friends can create a structure that is pleasing to all parties. Provide them a desire to be "supportive" without an attempt to control each problem. You can respond to their opinion on what can be useful to them by making positive changes. It helps to express love, gratitude, respect, and acceptance for your loved one.
– It is important to emphasize the purpose of celebrating the holiday and pay less attention to food or food.
If attention is concentrated on the holiday and its true meaning and purpose, rather than eating or eating disorders, it will be easier for your loved one to pay less attention. Highlight time, activity, and traditions that exceed the eating and eating habits. Let the food become a celebration, not in the center of attention.
– It is important for family and friends to avoid being responsible and guilty of eating disorders.
There is no need, and there is no good time for your guilty or guilty to hurt your loved one. Holidays are especially time-consuming. Eating disorders are insufficient for those diseases that have not been caused by one person or by one interdependence. It is also important to eat a disturbed person who is not responsible for the emotional response to eating disorders for their family and friends. There is a good deal about the holiday season. "We will spend time focusing on the need for nutrition, agreed before, and first of all we will focus on one another and it is meaningful in our family or in our social conditions." knowing that you can look beyond outbreaks of outbreaks because you are also concerned about the harm, pain, fear and guilt that they are inside. By recognizing the pain inside, nobody should be guilty of sin or guilty of eating disorder, allowing positive family associations and caring for emphasis. It is not necessary to "walk on egg accumulations", especially when everyone understands and accepts the nutritional requirements. Grace is a wonderful holiday gift for someone who has a disorder.
– It may be helpful to break down as few people as possible during the holiday season.
It's easier and less than fifty people than fifty people. Invite your friends or family members to participate in smaller, recurring and less chaotic social events and events. Simple talking and sharing as a small family member or a small circle of friends can do much to make the sense of belonging and security of a feeding disorder.
– Encourage your family member or friend to get extra support on their holidays.
Additional support can be provided by members of the family, other friends, community, and even the treatment team. If you know the benefits of this extra help during holidays, you can encourage this extra involvement rather than be injured or injured. Երբեմն, ուտելու խանգարման ունեցող մարդը չի կարող պատրաստ լինել լիարժեք սերը ստանալու եւ ընտանիքի անդամներին եւ ընկերներին առաջարկելու, բայց, այնուամենայնիվ, աջակցում եւ սիրում է նրանց: Դուք կարող եք ուղարկել հաղորդագրություն, «Մենք այստեղ ենք, աջակցելու համար, եւ դա լավ է, եթե մյուսները աջակցեն ձեզ:
– Կարեւոր է ընտանիքի եւ ընկերների համար հեռացնել ցանկացած անհիմն պահվածքի սպասելիքները կամ ճնշումները:
Երբեմն ուզում ես շատ բաներ ավելի լավ լինել, որ չես հասկանում, թե ինչպես է ձեր հիասթափված հույսերն ու ակնկալիքները իրականում խաղում, քանի որ խթանում են ուտելու խանգարման համար: Այս որոշակի ակնկալիքները թողնելով ձեր սեփական մտքի մեջ, ազատում է ձեզ արձագանքել եւ վայելել այն ամենը, ինչ ձեր սիրելիը կարող է տոներին ժամանակ անցկացնել: Ավելի օգտակար կլինի արտահայտել շատ ջերմություն, սիրո, բարության եւ ընդունման համար անձին. «Չկա ճնշում բան ապացուցելու մեզ տոն օրերին . Հատուկ, բաց կամ ակնկալվող ակնկալիքները վերացնելը ավելի ձեռնտու կլինի, քան գրեթե ցանկացած բան, որը կարող եք անել:
– Կարեւոր է խնամք տալ «տալ» եւ չմտածել «վերցնելը»: Լինելով ինքներդ հայտարարված բուժքույր, դիետոլոգ, թերապեւտ կամ դետեկտիվ, ձեզ դնում է ձեր ամենակարեւոր դերը `« սիրելի մեկը »
Դա ձեր գործն է, որ լուծեք կամ լուծեք ուտելու խանգարումը: Դա ձեր գործն է, խրախուսել մարմնի սնուցումը եւ հոգու կերակրացնելը: Շատ ծանր աշխատանք տան օրերին կերակրման անկարգությունների դադարեցումը դադարեցնելու համար կարող է վառել անազնվությունը եւ պաշտպանությունը, որն իրականում կերակրում է խնդիրը: Դուք պատասխանատվություն չեք կրում ասել կամ անել ամեն ինչ: Ոչինչ չեք անում կամ չեն անում ձեր ընկերոջ կամ ընտանիքի անդամի անձնական պատասխանատվությունը հաղթահարելու եւ վերականգնելու իրենց ուտելու խանգարումներից: Նա միակն է, ով կարող է անել այդ աշխատանքը, բայց դուք կարող եք հոգ տանել, empathize, խրախուսել եւ կիսել գործընթացը նրանց հետ: Լավ արտահայտվածը հաճախ ավելի օգտակար է, քան այն, ինչ իրականում ասվում կամ արվում է: Եթե ձեր ընկերը կամ ընտանիքի անդամը գիտի, որ ձեր սիրտը գտնվում է նրանց կողմից, ապա դառնում եք նրանց հարմարավետության, աջակցության եւ անվտանգության ապահովման աղբյուր:
Այս ընդհանուր տոնական առաջարկությունները հիվանդների եւ մասնագետների կողմից ամբողջական ցուցակ չեն, բայց նրանք շեշտում են որոշ դրական մոտեցումներ, որոնք կօգնեն եւ աջակցում են ուտելու խանգարում ունեցող որեւէ մեկին: Հատուկ գաղափարները, ռազմավարությունները եւ համաձայնությունները, որոնք կարող են դուրս գալ ձեր սիրելիի հետ ձեր փոխհարաբերություններից `տոներից առաջ եւ ընթացքում, թույլ կտան այս գաղափարներն անհատականացված եւ եզակի լինել յուրաքանչյուր իրավիճակի համար: Հիշեք նաեւ, որ սնունդը խանգարող անձը ունի իր դրական բաների ցանկը, որը նա կարող է անել, որպեսզի օգնի նրան տոնական սեզոնի միջոցով: Հուսով ենք, որ այս հոդվածը օգտակար է ավելի լավ հասկանալու տարիքային այս սեզոնի ընթացքում տեղի ունեցած ուտելու խանգարումներից տառապող կարեւոր եւ դժվարին թվացող մարդկանց: Հուսով ենք, որ այս իրազեկումը եւ ըմբռնումը կօգնի մեզ բացահայտել տոների լավագույն նվերները, ովքեր սիրում եւ խնամում ենք այս տարվա ընթացքում:
Source by Randy K. Hardman, Ph.D.